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Alicia Rose Parlette passed away today April 22, 2010

Filed under: Alicia Parlette — julietmoser @ 2:24 pm

Alicia Rose Parlette passed away at 11:30 AM PST this morning.

I write this news with mixed emotions – grief, of course, but also incredibly relief and gratitude that Alicia will be comfortable from now on.

She waited until one of her high school English teachers finished reading To Kill A Mockingbird (a group reading project that took over a week; all of us reading out loud to her) and then about 20 minutes later took several short shallow breaths and then didn’t take any more.

Alicia was resting peacfully, surrounded by family and friends.

Memorial services are being planned; if there will be celebrations open to the public or memorial funds established information will be published here.

Thank you for your support of Alicia’s caretakers during this intensely difficult three weeks.


100 Responses to “Alicia Rose Parlette passed away today”

  1. Stella Says:

    I just found out about Alicia’s passing today, a year and more after the fact. I know her family and friends must still be grieving, so for whatever comfort it may give them, I logged into to say that today someone wept and gave thanks for her memory.

  2. Doug Hambright Says:

    I saw the “Alicia’s Story” article when I was teaching. I took them (all seven entries.) I had always intended on reading them. But intentions are like babies who are crying in church…they should be carried out. Today, I finally read all seven of the articles and then googled Alicia to she how she was doing. I was greatly saddened to read that the person whom I have grown to know through her writing, had passed a year and two days ago.

    I found myself rooting for Alicia in her struggles, as I read each word. I want to thank each of her family and friends who stood by her and prayed with, and for, her. Prayer really does change things. For those who prayed that God would be glorified through Alicia’s life and death, your prayers were answered. My life has been changed for having been given the opportunity to touch her life, if but only for a brief moment.

    As a believer in the Resurrection of believers, on this Easter Day, 2011, I am convinced that her life has given hope to those who have little hope, and that her loved ones will see her again when we see Jesus.

  3. Anna Says:

    I had not heard of Alicia until this evening and have just spent hours reading all of her blogs. My heart aches and I’m in tears, I’ll think of her often and I’m sending my love to all of her family and loved ones.

  4. Rich Says:

    Alicia, I know you’re up there, laughing at us. This is for you. Wordsworth said it better than anyone else:

    The world is too much with us; late and soon,
    Getting and spending, we lay waste our powers;
    Little we see in Nature that is ours;
    We have given our hearts away, a sordid boon!
    This Sea that bares her bosom to the moon,
    The winds that will be howling at all hours,
    And are up-gathered now like sleeping flowers,
    For this, for everything, we are out of tune;
    It moves us not.–Great God! I’d rather be
    A Pagan suckled in a creed outworn;
    So might I, standing on this pleasant lea,
    Have glimpses that would make me less forlorn;
    Have sight of Proteus rising from the sea;
    Or hear old Triton blow his wreathed horn.

  5. chris l Says:

    a light has gone from this earth, tho her beautiful story and writings live on.
    my condolences to her loved ones and to all who loved her.
    nobody should die so young of this dreadful disease. someday soon i hope there is a cure.
    alicia, i hope you are smiling in your mother’s embrace now.

  6. Amy A. Sargent Says:

    The original series in The Chronicle made me laugh and cry, simultaneously. Some of this was from having lost friends and family members to cancer (one friend passed away of ovarian cancer at 26). Some of it was Alicia’s fresh and original perspective, and her ability to appreciate the absurdity in tragic circumstances. (I’m not sure I’ll ever again see the phrase “butt cancer” in print.)

  7. Karen Saucedo Says:

    I read the article the day Alicia died. I was on the bus and just couldn’t hold back tears. She fought so hard. Harder than many people will ever fight for anything. And, yet she left this earth at only 28. I’m glad that she had the opportunity to write of her experience and that she had so many wonderful and loyal friends who, along with her family, helped her travel this road and to have as much in her short life as it was possible to have. Alicia is at peace now….doing angel deeds, no doubt…and so my thoughts are with those of you that she left behind. Because now you still travel on…. She was wrong when she said “It’s not like I have a choice”. She, in fact, did have choices. And, she made the brave ones. She was made of light.

  8. Kimberlee Says:

    I just found out about Alicia’s passing this morning. I diligently read her series in the Chronicle in 2005 with both interest and a soft heart. After the series ended, I’d randomly find myself thinking about her and I would do a google search to see if I could find out how she was doing and if she had recovered. I am very saddened to now learn that this evil disease has taken her. I recently lost my father to Cancer so I am all too aware of the pain and sadness as well as the solace that comes from knowing their pain is gone. My thoughts and prayers are with Alicia’s family and friends – and all who were touched by her – as they cope with her passing. God Bless.

  9. Francisco Saldana Says:

    I wanted to participate in giving Alicia’s family and friends my condolences for her passing. Even though her life was short, her impact in the community was strong and I might say appreciated
    Had she lived a long life, I am sure she still would brought positivity and life force to the people around her. I say this because of the way she handled herself in the adversity that she had to face. May she live in the hearts of those who knew and know about her.

  10. Marie Says:

    RIP Alicia, All of us from Dr. Feldman’s office were extremely saddened when we heard the news. We read your story and kept up through your writings girl you are a damn good writer. Thank you for touching our lifes and teaching us what really matters. You were an amazing young woman, your bravery is and alway’s will be a lesson to us all.

    Thank you

  11. Melissa Says:

    Just one of many of Alicia’s followers. I have thought of her many times and loved her writings. I was at my desk when I glanced at the news site. My heart just ached and tears came to my eyes. I never knew her but she just tugged at my heart. So brave.

  12. Amy Says:

    I was listening to NPR when they mentioned it … I broke into tears as I drove.

    My deepest and most sincere condolences to Alicia’s family.

  13. Myrna Hasty Says:

    I wanted more of Alicia, for many years to come. I have followed every story in the Chronicle and then her blogs. When they stopped, I even emailed CW Nevius about her and he answered that Alicia decided to stop her blog because of her health. I have been devastated ever since. When the first article regarding her failing health appeared earlier this week, I was so upset. To Kill a Mockingbird is also my favorite book and movie, and I am planning to see the play in San Jose and think of her; in fact, I will never forget her wonderful spirit. I pray that her family and friends stay strong at this trying time in their lives. I feel we all think of her as family and friend. Lovingly, Myrna–a fellow writer

  14. Janet Says:

    Her death is a loss for us all. She was such an inspiration to me; I will never forget her. My condolences to all of her devoted family, friends, and caretakers. How blessed they were to have ministered to such a special woman. What a comfort knowing she is free of pain and rejoicing with her dear mother. Her legacy will live on. Well done, sweet angel.


  15. Sandra Fitzgerald Says:

    I am sad to admit that I had not heard of Alicia until today. But after reading about her passing, I opened up her articles and read them straight through. Her words reached down into my heart and pulled up the words and experience of my late husband who died after a courageous struggle with Non-Hodgkin’s Lymphoma.

    As I sat and read through each of Alicia’s stories, the tears came and I remembered our feelings of fear and hope and love and loss. It hurts, but it’s not bad to remember. It makes every moment we had shine in the memory. I hope that with time, Alicia’s family and her Lucas will see their way through their tears and continue to enjoy the shining memories of a spectacularly brave, talented, intelligent young woman who suffered too much and left them too soon.

    RIP Alicia. I pray that you found your mother waiting to greet you with love.

  16. Renee Z. Says:

    Alicia was my Resident Advisor at the University of Nevada. Our rooms shared a common wall and I went to her often for advice. We instantly had a bond once we realized we had grown up in the same area. She was an amazing person and would have given you her last dime if that meant it would help you. The last time I saw her was when she came to campus to read and introduce the first published installment of her story. I had not seen her since she moved to San Francisco and she recognized me immediately and gave me a huge hug. I have thought about her when I scan my bookshelf and see her book. She was a great person and I hope her story continues to inspire people for years to come.

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  18. Melanie Says:

    My heart was broken upon reading this today. I followed her story as it happened and have checked back every so often to see of any news.

    What a brave person she was…may she rest in peace.

  19. Zach Says:

    I found Alicia’s story incredibly touching and I followed it very closely when it originally ran. She had an uncanny ability to convey a very real sense of the courage, fear, grief and joy that marked those moments in her life. You felt like you knew Alicia, which is a great compliment to her as a writer, journalist and person.

    My only consolation is that she is now free of the terrible pain this illness must have caused her. This seems inadequate when measured against the terrible loss to her family, friends, and all of us who felt some sort of kinship with her. If there is something after death – and I pray for her sake there is – I hope she has found there the solace and peace that her brief life on earth did not have enough of.

  20. Courtney Says:

    Alicia was an amazing human being who made a tremendous impact on all those around her. I was so saddened to read of her family’s loss, but so moved by Alicia’s spirit and courage. She lived her life in a way we should all strive to–with vibrance, kindness, and grace. I admire the hell out of you Alicia:) All my love and condolences to her family.

  21. Jim Says:

    Alicia was what was right with young adulthood. She was energetic, fun, full of wonder. For every person her age doing the wrong thing, there are people like Alicia who through their darkest hour, inspire, encourage, and find joy. Much love to all who knew her, and RIP Alicia. Thanks,

  22. Bryana Says:

    Thank you for letting me a part of your life. You are amazing and will be missed by all.

    My prayers and condolences go out to Alicia’s family.

  23. Sarah Says:

    My heart is heavy with sadness and gratitude to Alicia. Your story and your strength have inspired me so much throughout the years. I spent yesterday morning reading your story again. I wish you peace and will live my life inspired by your courage. My prayers go out to Alicia’s family and friends – what a beautiful community of support you created as you guided Alicia from this shore to the next.

  24. Meaganne Dodds Says:


    They say memories are golden
    well maybe that is true.
    I never wanted memories,
    I only wanted you.

    A million times I needed you,
    a million times I cried.
    If love alone could have saved you
    you never would have died.

    In life I loved you dearly,
    In death I love you still.
    In my heart you hold a place
    no one could ever fill.

    If tears could build a stairway
    and heartache make a lane,
    I’d walk the path to heaven
    and bring you back again.

    Our family chain is broken,
    and nothing seems the same.
    But as God calls us one by one,
    the chain will link again.

    Author unknown

    This poem above was sent to me during a difficult time in my life, one that was faced with pain and loss of loosing someone I loved. I hope it can bring you and your family some comfort during this difficult time.

    Alicia’s story was so remarkable, it was a story of suffering and pain, but also of love. Her memory will live on in the legacy she has graced this world with (her story of her battle with cancer). My deepest sympathies go out to you and your family.



  25. Phoebe Moyer Says:

    I am devastated that I’m a day late. I wanted Alicia to know about our shared connection with TO KILL A MOCKINGBIRD. I’ve followed “Alicia’s Story” and was very moved to learn that TO KILL A MOCKINGBIRD was so important to her and that she identified with the character of Mrs. Dubose. My performance tonight in TheatreWorks’ TO KILL A MOCKINGBIRD as Mrs. Dubose will be a personal tribute to Alicia’s strength and good will. God bless her and her family and friends. Phoebe Moyer

  26. John Says:

    God Speed, May the Four Winds Blow Her Safely Home… Our condolences to her family but she is now free of pain & whole in her new life.
    Peace to all

  27. Anne Says:

    I followed Alicia’s writing in the Chronicle after my husband died of cancer; they shared a birthday. Their deaths bring me sorrow at the unfairness of life, the way we all have been deprived of lovely, wonderful people because of this terrible disease. Nobody should have to suffer like that. I am so sorry for your loss.

  28. This day is remembered and quietly kept. No words are needed, we shall never forget. For those we love don’t go away, they walk beside us everyday. Unseen, unheard but always near. So loved, so missed, so very dear.
    -Author unknown

    Alicia was a courageous young woman with a mission to educate us. Educate us through her story, one of hope, love and a strong sense of leaving something behind. She was an example and while I am sure she didn’t always want to be so public in her journey she was generous enough to share it with all of us.

    I didn not know Alicia personally but through her story she has left an indelible mark on my heart and she will not be forgotten.

  29. Will Swarts Says:

    I read Alicia’s Story, and my hopes rose and fell with each of her articles. She was a remarkable, driven, persistent and brave young woman, and I am sorry for her passing. The warm, fond and admiring comments that have been written since this sad news was posted are a touching testament to the idea that a person lives on in those who knew here and cared, and that’s a comfort, I hope, for those who feel her loss most closely.

  30. Ryan Says:

    You now get to see your mom again. Rest in peace.

  31. Sean Says:

    Rest in peace, dear one.

  32. Rene Says:

    My most sincere sympathy to Alicia’s family. May you have all the comfort you need from all around. God bless you.

  33. Lila Says:

    May the angels guide you in to watch over those who love you as we remember your light & courage.

  34. Rich Says:

    May Alicia now rest in peace. She has truly made a lasting impact on me and countless others, for which we are all grateful. Your spirit will live on. Thank you to the family and friends of Alicia, who did their best to comfort and aid Alicia the past weeks, and for keeping us all updated about her situation.

  35. C Says:

    Rest in peace, Alicia. You’ve touched so many people across the globe.
    My sincerest condolences to Alicia’s family, her fiance and her friends.

  36. Doug Says:

    I just read about this on SFGate and want to send my prayers to her family and friends and new husband. I will have to go back and read her entire story now so I can know her a little better as a writer which is what she truly wanted to be.

    Bless you Alicia Rose Parlette

  37. E Says:

    I had been following Alicia’s story since it first appeared in the Chronicle. Constantly amazed by her courage and wit. Caught up with the sad news last week that she was receiving end of life treatment. My best wishes to her family & friends, and to all those whose lives have been affected by cancer.

  38. Bonnie Says:

    Thank you all of Alicia friends and family. Thank you for being there for Alicia and for each other. You are all very remarkable people.

  39. Chris Says:

    Condolences to Alicia’s loved ones. I can relate to the mix emotions, my mother passed in 2001 to breast cancer. You hate to see them go, but it is really a blessing that they no longer must suffer in this life. Fuck Cancer! Alicia you are truly inspirational.

    • Chris Says:

      and one more thing to remember, especially for those who were bedside as Alicia passed on. The atomic energy that made her physical manifestation possible does not die with her body but is released and absorbed by nearby particle masses. Those of you loved ones, family, friends, and Clarabelle who were there when she took her final breaths are now host to a part of Alicia, her spirit, soul, and core.

      When times are difficult and you miss Alicia terribly, look in the mirror, gently stroke your arm and remember that she is now a part of you. And for the friends and family who were not there, make sure to visit the ones who were, give them great big hugs and say hello to Alicia for she hasn’t “passed away” but merely has shared a little bit of herself with all of you.

  40. amber Says:

    alicia yu always remain that caring sweet girl i met in high school.over the years i’ve wondered what you had been doing with your happy to know you accomplished so much and touch so many.i will never forget you and your bravery.may you rest in peace and be an angel for tears are flowing for you and all your beaty and condolances to your family and loved will always be remembered.i am glad you are no longer in pain.taken much too soon.

  41. sg Says:

    I followed your journey from the beginning. I hope your journey has ended in your mother’s arms. peace.

  42. Rolf Says:

    I read Alicia’s Story when it was picked up and run in the Seattle paper years ago. it ran one chapter each day for a week, and by the end of that week, I found that I had a tremendous amount of respect for Ms. Parlette. Ms. Parlette came across as a tremendously grounded young lady as she wove her story; her hopes, her fears, and her faith. Too often we worry about how much of ourselves we are willing to share with strangers; the honesty and courage that Ms. Parlette brought to her writing was refreshing.

    In the past few years, we lost a close friend of the family to breast cancer, and a couple of years later my own mom passed after a lengthy illness. I found that during those dark times, I thought back to Ms. Parlette and her courage. I read Alicia’s Story again the week before my mom passed away, and her words helped give me a perspective about what really mattered, my emotional turmoil, and my own faith.

    I’ve thought about Ms. Parlette off and on over the years, and periodically would look for an update to see how she was doing. I truly hoped that a miracle would happen for her, and she would win her fight. A week ago I found this page, and felt lump in my throat when I read that her condition had deteriorated.

    I am saddened this evening to learn that Ms. Parlette passed today, but I am comforted in the knowledge that she is pain free and in God’s loving embrace. Ms. Parlette wrote that she hoped for a miracle. As I think about her, and about my own life, as I read the words left here by her family and close friends, as well as people who knew her only through her writing, what becomes clear is that Alicia is a miracle, who touched many, many lives. Tonight I say a prayer for Alicia, and I pray that her friends and family find strength and comfort in the love that she had for them.

  43. 6079smithw Says:

    Rest in peace brave lady, you’re with your Mom now, and mine, who we lost to cancer in 2004. You will be missed.

  44. Henry Says:

    I had the privilege of getting to know Alicia when we were both interns at the Sacramento Bee in 2003. She was a good soul, a great person … my thoughts are with the family. As I’m sure those close to her know, she was one of a kind (Alicia would not approve of the cliche, but what else can I say?)

  45. Gaye Says:

    As your devoted readers, our collective heart aches at losing you. In some small way I hope the thousands of us who were mesmerized by your writing are a comfort to your family and friends at this time.

  46. Suzanne Says:

    Just like the other comments, Alicia’s story truly created a unique bond between reader and author – one that only a superbly talented writer could create. I checked around monthly for updates, always hoping that her silence meant remission and a new life. Sadly, today’s news was like a shock to the system. God bless you, Alicia. My thoughts and prayers are with her family and friends.

  47. Bella Says:

    my deepest condolences to dave, matthew, lucas and all of alicia’s many friends and readers.

    i’ve carried alicia in my heart these past 5 years.
    i shall remember her grace, honest and courage forever.

    back to earth- on this earth day

  48. I am deeply sorry to hear about the death of Alicia. She was so much to so many people. I had the previlege of interviewing her for a scholarship from our P.E.O. Chapter in
    Roseville, CA during the spring of her senior year of high school. I was so impressed with her forcus and passion for writing. I have follow her stories in the Chronicle and the blogs that have followed.

    God bless Alicia and her Father and Brother and the wonderful support team she had.

  49. Lindsay Beverly Says:

    I can’t believe Alicia is not coming home. I live dirrectly above her, life won’t be as sunny without her smile. I saw Clarabelle off today, she is so sad. Hope Alicia is at peace now. I will never forget her! Xoxoxoxo to all her friends and family.

    • Cheryl King Says:

      Dear Lindsay,

      Just wanted to say that I’m sorry for your loss, too. It must have been pretty special having Alicia and Clarabelle for neighbors.

      No, things won’t be the same from now on but her spirit remains and it lives on, in health!

      Rejoice in the life that she lived to the fullest! Hear her laughter in your heart and remember her sparkle as you walk the hall, wishing she would come around the corner with Clarabelle. (I SO hope Clarabelle is well taken care of.)

      She wouldn’t want it any other way.

      Take care and peace be with you, Sweetie.
      Be kind to yourself.


  50. Such a terrible loss. Like so many people, I followed Alicia’s original series in the Chronicle, even wrote to her. The loss of someone so young and full of promise touches me in a personal way, since I am the mother of two sons in their twenties (one also a newspaper copyeditor.) Alicia was blessed to have such a wonderful group of friends and family around her. Love and condolences to all of you.

  51. BR Says:

    I didn’t know Alicia but her writing and her story made me feel like I did. I always wondered what became of that scared but brave girl, and was saddened to recently hear she was in her final days. Now that she’s gone I feel like I lost a friend.
    As someone fighting a chronic disease myself, her strength and faith and bravery are an inspiration. I rejoice for her that she is free of her pain and suffering but I weep with her family and friends for their loss.
    Goodbye, Alicia. You were too young but you fought the good fight. Rest now. You’ve earned it. And help the rest of to be as strong and brave as you have been.

  52. Shoshana Silver Says:

    I first read “Alicia’s Story” six weeks after the death of my own mother from cancer, and it really resonated with me. I followed the updates anxiously, hoping for a good outcome. I wondered throughout the years how she was doing, and would check SF Gate’s site periodically for updates. The anniversary of my mother’s death is next week, and hearing of Alicia’s passing so close to that date brings back the pain all over again. I’d like to think that Alicia is now meeting up with her mom, and getting some well-deserved pats on the back for her brave fight and courageous outlook on life.

  53. Celestial Says:

    She fought a valiant fight. Now, she is no longer in pain. A very courageous woman that so many could learn from. May the light be w/her, wherever her soul may be. Om Mani Padme Hum

  54. Lila Says:

    God bless you Alicia. I am heartbroken to learn of your passing. Thank you for sharing your story with us. I pray you are with your mother now and at peace. I am so very sorry for your family’s loss.

  55. Patricia Says:

    Life is unfair! Yet who are we to question the power of the Almighty and His plan and purpose for our lives. God Bless you dear Child of God and strength and courage to Alicia’s family~~~you are all loved.

  56. Sara Says:

    RIP Alicia. Thank you for sharing your story. I know you and your mom are hugging right now.

  57. Susan C. Says:

    I have followed Alicia since she first published, and wondered why the Chronicle had not kept us updated. Thank you for doing so, and when I saw a beautiful red rainbow last night in the clouds over San Mateo (which looked like a cross) I knew her time was short, and today was the day we lost a beautiful soul. She taught us so much about how to live and enjoy each and every day. May she be reunited with her mother and rest in peace. I am sad for us to lose a talented, brave, intelligent and young lady who had so much to give.

    Thank you again for keeping us all in her life and my thoughts and prayers are with her family.

  58. Rodney Yee Says:

    A shining beacon of the human will to survive against all odds has been put out! I shall mourn the lost of such a talented and strong willed young lady.

  59. Brian Says:

    A brave writer. There can be no better kind.

  60. Tony Lam Says:

    It’s difficult to hear that. Good bye, Alicia rest in peace. My sincere respect to the families.

  61. Taliassima Says:

    I had never heard of Alicia before today but this has really saddened me. I just read about this incredible young woman and commend her for her strength, her talent and her determination to leave an indelible mark on the world. She is (sorry, she’s far too young to say ‘ she was’) much stronger than anyone I know.
    I hope they find a cure for that blasted disease.

  62. crimsonravven Says:

    I cannot stop crying. I didn’t know her, but her story moved me so much, I felt like I did. Obviously, this moment was coming, but the shock of it still seems to hit you from left field.

    My most deepest and sincerest condolences to her family and friends. May the strength in your faith give you comfort as well as the fact that she is finally free of suffering.

  63. Ms. M. Says:

    love, blessings, gratitude

  64. patois Says:

    I was so saddened to hear about her passing. I will remember her spirit most of all. I enjoyed my time with her at The Chronicle. I will fondly recall her essence.

  65. Debbie B. Says:

    It’s just not right for someone so young to go through what Alicia did. My deepest condolences to her loved ones.

  66. Susan Says:

    My condolences to Alicia’s family and friends. She touched me through her honest, beautiful writing. She was kind enough to share her experiences with cancer, which helped so many people understand. I thought of her writing often when my own mother was undergoing cancer treatment. She left too soon, but she impacted some many lives.

  67. KL McCoy Says:

    The news I was dreading…*sigh* I know her pain and suffering are over, but her passing still makes me sad. I am so sorry for her family and friends, but I also feel happiness for them because they got to be with Alicia and got to know and love this fabulous, courageous, wonderful woman and have her in their lives, if only for a short time. My thoughts are with them.

    Goodbye, Alicia, and be at peace.

  68. Greg Says:

    I am glad the pain is finally gone and she can finally rest, relax, laugh, catch up on some reading and write stories none of us can imagine…the sad part is we will never get to read them.

  69. Randi Says:

    Sympathies to her family, friends, caretakers and those whose lives she touched. Her courage and grace will not be forgotten.

    May her memory be a blessing.

  70. Eric Says:

    I didn’t know her for long, but will probably never forget her wonderful personality and attitude at the support group. My thoughts are with her family and friends.

  71. Jennifer in Walnut Creek Says:

    Goodnight, sweet girl.

  72. Charry Hutchison Says:

    I just opened up SF gate – and it took my breath away. I read her story when it was written in 2005. I had checked back for updates a few times a year. I had prayed she was off having a wonderful life – i t sounds like she did. I am very sad, I am sending her dad, brother and friends, lots prayers. my heart breaks for your loss. Alicia, rest in peace, with your mom.

  73. Lily Says:

    To the Parlette Family and Lucas Beeler:

    Our heartfelt condolences are with you and your family, at this time in one’s life it’s important to remain strong and to remember your friends are there with you through your tough time. I pray for her soul to rest in peace and you to gain strength from this.

  74. Darren Says:

    I am so sorry to hear about your passing but I know you will now be reunited with your mother. Through your words I haver found comfort in your strength and have developed my own personal relationship with God again, thanks to you. No more will I take this life for granted as I have for so long. Your story single handedly made me realize how important life is and how precious and fragile it can be. Although you are gone, your memory will last forever in so many lives as I know it will in my own.

    God of power and mercy, you have made death itself the gateway to eternal life. Look with love on our dying sister, and make her one with Your Son in His suffering and death, that, sealed with the blood of Christ, she may come before you free from sin. Amen.

  75. Anonymous Says:

    Much love for Alicia’s family and friends – We didn’t need to know her, to know she is beautiful – may your angel and protector now guide you through your own beautiful lives.
    Corinne & David.

  76. Amy "Stogner" Wicoff Says:

    You are now an angel watching over us. As I write this in tears, I know that you are in a good place and finally have peace. Thank you for sharing your life with so many and for touching us all greatly. My deepest condolences to your family and friends. You will be missed by many.

    With much love,
    Amy Wicoff

  77. Kimberly Skaggs Says:

    When I think of Alicia I don’t think of cancer.

    I think of the day I took her picture outside my house. She and Brianna were flying out to travel to Europe that night. It was Halloween and I took their picture together standing outside my house – they were both laughing and smiling into the camera.

    She had cancer then. But, I don’t remember that when I think of her.

    I remember how they were both wearing witch hats, holding onto their luggage and laughing at how they were going to wear their hats in the airport and on the plane ride over. They were ready for an adventure, laughing and having the best time. The sun was setting behind them and I remember thinking, “This is such a great picture.”

    She was such a sweet person, so brave and full of life. My deepest and most sincere condolences to her dad, brother and boyfriend. Also, to her caretakers (I love you, Bri) and close friends. I’m sorry for your loss.

  78. Li Sen Says:

    Rest in peace, Alicia. With all the daily stories of all the bad and sad things that are happening around us, I am truly appreciative to know you and your story. The courage and grace that you have exuded has been a shining example of what beauty is and has been an inspiration.

    The world is a little less bright than yesterday, but the fact that you are no longer in pain makes it a little more bearable.

  79. Toni Says:

    My prayers to the family and her friends. Alicia has gone home to be with her Lord, and we can rejoice in the peace that she now has. I followed her story on and appreciated her candidness and honesty. Colleen Corah Hitchcock has written a beautiful poem “Ascension” that many find helpful at this time.

  80. Alicia Says:

    I was so inspired by Alicia’s story, it came around the time my sister was undergoing treatment for Inflammatory Breast Cancer. I know first hand how the final days must have been. Many, many blessings to everyone how helped Alicia on her final path. I hope you know what courage you showed and how you have all honored her life and courage. Rest with peace and love.

  81. janey Says:

    To Alicia’s family and friends, please accept my heartfelt condolences on your loss. My hope is that you find peace and comfort knowing that she meant so much to so many and that her life was an inspiration to all who had the chance to learn of her through her writings.

  82. Debra Says:

    My condolences to Alicia’s friends and family.

  83. KayDee Says:

    RIP Alicia. Thank you for sharing your story with us. You left this world far too soon.

  84. Constance Says:

    Thank you for sharing the struggle. It was very inspiring along the way. My heart goes out to those Alicia left behind, but she is enjoying the peace she deserves now.

  85. Leo Says:


    I just wanted to drop a note and express my condolences to Alicia’s family and friends. I happened across her articles on SFGate and was quite moved by her writing. Alicia was obviously quite talented and despite the sadness she’s endured, she was an incredibly bright person.


  86. Janet Hale Says:

    Rest In Peace Dear Alicia Rose

  87. Fin Says:

    I didn’t know Alicia personally…only through her articles, but I’m truly saddened over her passing. Rest in peace. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.

  88. Mike McLimerick Says:

    I’ve been deeply inspired by your story ever since I first picked up the paper in 2005. You clearly touched a lot of people, and left this world with some deeply devoted friends that will carry your message on. Goodnight, Alicia, rest in peace.

  89. @genstarchild Says:

    Goodnight sweet girl.

  90. Jason Wilson Says:

    My condolences to Alicia’s husband, family, and other loved ones. Her story was inspiring, and I’m glad she had the courage to share it with us. Alicia’s life is a credit to her parents and everyone who helped shape what a brave woman she clearly was.

  91. Sierra Says:

    Oh that took my breath away. I wasn’t expecting her to pass so soon. I guess she was ready to go and be a free spirit. So sad, but yet she is in a better place, pain free. Thanks for sharing your story with the world.

  92. Colleen Wong Says:

    Alicia …thank you for sharing your story and your life with us…you have touched more lives than you will ever know. It makes me smile to know that you are no longer in pain and that we now have a very special angel watching over us….rest in peace….

  93. Erica Says:

    “You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view … until you climb into his skin and walk around in it” – Chapter 3 – To Kill a Mockingbird

    Thank you to Alicia for the gift of perspective. Brave and beautiful until the end. Wishing all those close to you strength and peace.

  94. Writer Says:

    I am so so sorry.

  95. jane bond Says:

    To the friends of Alicia, you showed such love and compassion for your friend, my cousin, that my heart is both sad and happy, sad that all she had was 28 years, happy that she established such wonderful relationships with all of you. My heart goes out to all of you. Jane, a cousin from Ohio. Rest in Peace California Cousin.

  96. @BayAreaBob Says:

    It’s surprising that someone you’ve never met can touch your life so close. Thanks for sharing your story Alicia, maybe one day we’ll meet on the other side. -B

  97. M Says:

    Rest in light and peace, Alicia. I feel so truly sad that you have died, yet I know that cancer never conquered your precious spirit. I agree that you are safe and free from pain, now… but still, I can’t help but cry…

    My heart and love go out to you, and all who are connected to you.

    • Sandra Says:

      I feel like I’ve known Alicia for several years, though we’d never met and for no reason today I logged on to this website to find she’d passed just hours before. We are all so connected, and we’ve lost a lovely link..
      My condolences to Alicia’s family. Farewell and God speed Alicia.

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